Letting Yourself Be Ugly

September 13, 2012

I have days when I get ready in the morning and I don’t feel that pretty. Some days I purposely don’t try to look all that nice and am totally fine with it. It’s a normal occurence and happens to everyone so I don’t feel like a total slob or that I’m dirty. I do shower so that’s not the issue, it’s more that I don’t feel obligated to always put on makeup and do my hair and I can feel just as secure with my looks as when I spend the time doing myself up.

The reason I’m bringing this up is because the other day I read something other day that really struck a cord. It’s from another blogger and when I read what she wrote about the importance of letting yourself be ugly I thought it was really well done. Here’s an excerpt:

We’re taught that these ideas are so essential: beauty, ugliness. They are the things that are supposed to be us. They feel so large sometimes that there isn’t room for the rest. Beauty, success. Ugliness, failure.

God, I’m thankful for the ugly days when I am busy with my life. When I catch a vaguely disappointing glimpse of myself in the subway window and keep feeling good anyway. When I look bad in everything I try on and I am in love with this chapter I’ve just written. When I am full of my own potential, and the promise of the rest of my life, the knowledge I’ll acquire, the sense that I’m making progress and, if anything, the clumsiness of my appearance is sort of compelling. I am a quirky, interesting woman. I look quirky and interesting, too.  I have a lot of other stuff going on.

It’s not just about beauty — it’s about letting yourself not care about beauty. It’s about being comfortable with the occasional ugly day. About taking the corrosive, toxic helplessness out of unattractiveness and replacing it with moving on. It’s about the fact that everyone has ugly days, where nothing looks right and it’s impossible to imagine that it ever did or ever will, but they don’t have to mean anything more than not looking good.

What do you think? Do you feel confident and pretty when you’re not done up?

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1 Carol @ Lucky Zucca September 13, 2012 at 2:20 pm

Thanks for sharing this Heather. I really enjoyed it and am glad to be introduced to her blog!


2 Jamie September 13, 2012 at 3:42 pm

I think I’ve gone long enough with letting myself be ugly. So here’s my question: Where do I sign up for a facial with you? Oh, btw. Congrats on getting your license! Proud of you kitty!


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